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COVID-19 still is a thing these days, and it seems like there is no end to the repeat testing, social distancing, conspirators arguing with hysterics, and most frustratingly, new bouts of quarantining. Since this seems to be the “new normal,” I think it’s time everyone tries to up their sex skills.
If you haven’t or need some inspiration, consider getting better at romancing, seducing, and fucking your significant other. Even if you’re totally single once all this virus crap dies down, it’ll be a great time to go out and look for a date or someone to get down with.
Think about, everyone is and has been on fucking edge and ready to relieve some stress. In the coming months, even a committed, no-game incel should be able to get some after coronavirus is over.
No matter where you are in your love life, I’m sure this set of tips will help all of you now or in the future. Forget about what you’ve seen in Cosmo, ThePornDude has the advice to help ya’ll.
Turn up the heat – or bring in the ice
Temperature extremes can cause many people to feel all sorts of things they otherwise wouldn’t. Contrary to some of you who are more sheltered, this doesn’t mean you have to bang in the virgin snow or try to fuck in a sweat lodge.
Pro tip: As someone who has (almost sort of) done both, I do not recommend either.
Instead, there are far safer, saner ways to play with temp extremes while in the comfort of your own home. To play with some fire without burning anyone, a simple lit candlestick can do the trick.
By dripping freshly melted wax on your partner, they’re going to get and fierce, fiery feeling without burning the skin. If you’re new to this, especially if you are going to be on the receiving end, experiment with the feeling to make sure you are familiar with and like it.
It is going to be intense at first, but once you adjust, it gives off an intense sensation followed by a pleasurable feeling that can provide a little psychological release. Plus, the nearby burning candle adds some ambient heat, that might get you a little sweat, which is perfect before banging it out.
If you’re going to be the person wielding the stick (the burning one that is), it’s good to practice too so you don’t burn your partner or cause some nearby object to catch alight. Wax play can be great fun, but you’re going to look rather silly if you burn your place down while being passionate.
On the flip side, if you want to go to the other end, adding some ice into your bedroom time can be great fun as well. Running a cube of ice on an erogenous zone feels great and can also get certain parts of the body erect.
Furthermore, as an awesome perk, you’ll both get wet and lubed up in no time at all for the big show.
Things to be careful of spilling cold water over everything, making a mess with wax, and setting sheets on fire
Experiment with food, drink, and jelly
Going back to ancient times, people have talked and written about foods to put them in the mood. From what I’ve read and experienced, these claims seem to be true, and there are more out there than you think.
I’m sure most people are familiar with couples feeding themselves strawberries or some other fruit, but that’s more of a psychological thing than a chemical one. Aphrodisiacs that have compounds that make folks horny include the spice ginseng, the vegetable root maca, and pistachio nuts.
Since these are plant-based and are easy to but slow to digest, you shouldn’t have to worry about any “gut troubles” during the middle of the act.
Of course, if you can’t afford these foods (they can be hard to find and are a bit pricey), a good glass of cheap wine or two works just as well, too. Just don’t overdo it, or you might end up dealing with the dreaded whiskey dick dilemma.
If you really want to get crazy, you might not just want to use food as a warmup but also include it in the main act.
No, I’m not talking about handcuffing one person to an open fridge as some feeders do. I’m talking about the stuff that you may have tried here and there in public but haven’t included it at home.
For instance, in some of the best clubs, I’ve been to have guys taking body shots off of dancers – both the liquid and jello variety. Another bit of fun which is often seen at raucous parties is seeing people, both men and women, licking whipped cream, chocolate syrup, or other foods usually seen on an ice cream sundae.
Further, I can say from experience that taking this kink into a more intimate setting is a fantastic way to set the mood. Depending on where you spray some cream (not that kind!) or drip some caramel, it’s a great opening for a strong oral sex session.
No matter which edible you want to use in your next wet hump, I strongly recommend putting some plastic down on the sheets first, or you might have to throw out the mattress.
Also, if you don’t shower between the foreplay and the fucking, prepare to get sticky. That may sound a little gross at first, but I found that it is part of the fun.
My preferred aphrodisiacs: oysters, pomegranate, red wine, and of course, dark chocolate
Try exchanging some naughty messages
I’ve already got a whole article on how to sext for beginners, which you all should read if you haven’t. If you don’t have the attention span or just want to Cliff Notes version, here’s my quick summary as to why this can be great foreplay and how to do it.
Diving headlong into full-on penetrative sex, at least to me, is hardly satisfying. Not only is that true for me, but I’m sure that most people would say the same. No matter your sex or sexual preferences, getting warmed up hours before you get down to business can be extremely gratifying in and of itself.
Thanks to mobile phones and email, it’s easier than ever to flirt with your special interest in realtime.
To give you an idea of how to start such a session, opening up with a simple “Hey, sexy” followed by a winking emoji is enough to
Suggested means of communication: SMS, Skype, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Zoom if you’re feeling kinky
Consider getting a little bit rough with some toys
There is no shortage of posts on this blog about pornstars and amateurs who enjoy playing with toys of all shapes and sizes. I’ve even written on how to make your own sex toys, so search for that one.
However, if throwing the same couple of dildos or pocket pussy in the sack is getting boring, it might be time to take a turn to the dark side with some rough handling.
Just so no one’s boundaries are crossed, or there is any confusion in the heat of the moment, there are a couple of things you are going to want to do first.
Some people would suggest writing down a yes/no/maybe list. I find since some people aren’t as good about reading their partner’s signals or might want to push too hard on the maybe list, it’s better to take a different approach.
Instead, draw up a list of yeses and hard nos first, and discuss why you feel about them the way that you do. Then put together a list of soft nos and put that list aside for now. Once you have a list of compatible into, try a few of those first, so you are comfortable getting intimate on the wild side.
With a baseline of comfort established, consider talking about what you both agree to and then look over your soft nos. As always, openly and carefully discuss your feelings about them and, if you’re both familiar, think about coming up with a compromise fetish or act if you want to push limits.
No matter what you guys agree on, always make sure you have a set safety word before things get hot and heavy.
Read, read, and read some more about the kinky shit you and your fuck partner are getting yourself into. Even the simplest kinks like chocking, while fun, can be very risky if you’re reckless or don’t know what you’re doing.
Educating yourself on how to do things like flogging, bondage, and other body stressing sex is extremely important since it can not only do physical damage when taken too far but also lead to some psychological wounds as well.
If you have a dom-sub dynamic (read: master-slave), then not only should you have a safety word, but also be mindful of being open to what you or your partner’s limits are. This means that doms should be hyper-aware of their subs, but subs should not be too timid or secretive to be communicative.
With all of that battle planning done, get in there, and enjoy your body wars.
Tools which might help: bondage rope, cushioned handcuffs, a tickle feather, or riding crop
Consider a different take on edging
Jerking it all day can be great fun, but it’s nowhere near as fun as having sexy time with someone else.
I’m sure you know that just because you are banging doesn’t mean the session has to last for five to twenty minutes or has to end when you both cum. I would go even further and say that there is no need to cum at all.
Sound crazy? Well, think about hardcore BDSM enthusiasts who get tied up or put into chastity. Often the whole point is to get the sub turned on for hours or even days with a big-O. I’ve never been in that position, but from what I gather from those who are, this feeling of constantly being horny is immensely satisfying.
For people who are more vanilla, you can enjoy the same sensation without any equipment, but it’ll take some self-control. When it comes to the basics, I’d say do whatever kind of sex you want but include plenty of variety to prevent either person from “getting there” while still enjoying it.
What you are going to want to do while doing this is to talk to your partner, so you don’t accidentally slip and, more importantly, be aware of both of your bodies signals. You may also want to take turns if you get close, taking a break from being stimulated, and only please your partner.
Again, it’s going to take a lot of awareness and control (!) – but if you do it right, you’ll both be exhausted and satisfied without busting one out.
The biggest challenge: being open enough with your partner, so you both get close but don’t cum
Try something you might consider to be taboo
Getting kinky doesn’t require a bunch of expensive equipment and, if you ask me, the best sexual instrument is the human body. If you know what you are doing, you can have a lot more fun than you realize once you break down certain barriers and get into the heat of the action.
To go back to what I brought up in the last section, it’s always important to express feelings and respect boundaries.
Anyway, for everyone, what is taboo varies quite a bit. For some, that could mean swinging from the lights or something as simple as a little oral sex. Whatever that is for you, so long as consent and comfort plus an open-mind is involved, if you stuck in your home with nothing to do, scratch a few taboos off your bucket list.
Or maybe we should refer to it as a fuck it list?
If you want to get really rough but keep things simple, like choking, it can combine intensity and sensuality.
**Cue the screeching of radical feminists**
I know some people might be a little leery about this, and I get why. After all, it seems a bit abrasive, even overly aggressive. Bear with me, though, it certainly isn’t for everyone, but there are several reasons why both men and women are into the receiving end of this sort of stuff.
On a physical level, choking can add a level of pressure that people find pleasurable and also be a way to be a bit more stable while going at it. Plus, if you do it carefully and don’t press too hard, the choke-y can get a mild high.
When it comes to psychology, this form of rough fucking requires a lot of trust between participants, especially the person being choked. Further, it can add a kinky power dynamic to your sex life as well.
In addition to that, the fact that the dominant partner is comfortable with this taboo form of play means s/he is willing to do anything to please their submissive partner.
Again, read more on this before you do, but it’s something that can add a good deal to your next fuck session. Similar sex acts that have the same stigma but can be gratifying for much the same reason include spitting, light hair pulling, and a firm slap on the ass.
To focus on something a bit more gentle, other unorthodox sex activities can include things like an oily massage. Remember, taboo doesn’t mean “wrong,” it merely refers to something which is considered to be sexually unusual, and there’s a lot of activities to pick from.
I’ve written about this and have several reviews of fetish sites on my main site. However, if you’re looking for even more recommendations, look up the Kinky Sex Bucket list on ScoopWhoop.
Other fetishes worth looking into: casual foot pleasuring, tickle torture, titjob ending in a pearl necklace
Make some money by making love on camera
I have nothing but the highest levels of respect for people who have the stones to get in front of a camera and show off their figure for the delight of the viewers.
Yeah, that’s a shocking statement coming from a porn critic, I know.
Still, it’s worth bringing up because I want to break down the stigma surrounding porn performers and think more people should consider becoming such a model. If you get into porn, it can be an amazing way to elevate your sex life and make some money.
And don’t let me make you think that you have to signup through an agency or apply all over the place to studios and hope for the best. Thanks to the internet, you can retain your independence and keep more of your money by fucking on camera while at home.
There are dozens of platforms to post your vids, pics, and homebrewed GIFs designed for amateurs like you if you look into them. The better ones have easy to use tools to make getting discovered and build a following even faster.
As with most things, success isn’t guaranteed, but I have seen plenty of examples of non-pro couples who have come out of nowhere, gotten internet famous, and made buckets of cash all over the tube sites.
But of course, there are even more options to exhibit your love life than that.
The classic favorite for most people has, for about a decade, been camming sites. Just like with amateur movie making, all you need is a cheap high def camera or laptop to get started. Googling’ cam+sites’ should get you plenty of results to pick from, and there are no (at least as far as I know) no startup costs to join.
The nice thing about going this route is that all you have to worry about in the live feed is the performance. You don’t have to worry about editing footage or mixing sound afterward.
However, I need to mention the new, popular way people are posting porn and making some series cash by showing their sex lives off. I am talking about websites like OnlyFans and JustForFans.
Those websites were already getting a following, but ever since COVID-19 hit the world like a paddle on a naughty subs ass, anyone with a little exhibitionist streak joined up.
Even with all of these new joiners, I wouldn’t worry about being beaten out by the competition. No matter what you and your partner look like or are into, if you’ve got the confidence, a little creativity, and ideally some kind of gimmick, I’m sure you can get at least a few fans and some extra cash.
If you aren’t that committed to being a moneymaking exhibitionist, there are some casual sites that require almost no effort to get an account and show off. There are others, but the best place to look up is Jerkmate – I’m sure the other couples and single voyeurs would like to see you perform.
Best platforms to post to PornHub, LiveJasmin, Chaturbate, OnlyFans
ThePornDude’s final words
As always, I love hearing from my legions of ever-loving fans. If one or any of these suggestions are something you plan on trying, let me know who it goes. If you did immediately after reading and it helped, I’d like to hear how it goes.
Good luck with hunkering down and weathering out this viral storm, and as always, I’m planning new content to keep you all entertained. I’ve got lists of new pornstars and their movies to look up, more sex advice, and even more material about all things sexy.
Check this page regularly for fresh posts.
