To any guy who is an avid watcher of lesbian intercourse online, you’ve probably observed that scissoring is usually the finale of the whole event. But I have my contacts in the world of lady-on-lady loving, and they tell me that same-sex intercourse woman-style is a bit different.
Most of what you see is accurate, the big finish involves a lot of tongue action, or a strap-on is involved. Upon pondering that reality, this is an aspect of sexuality and experimentation which I have neglected: the pleasures of using a dildo when applied to a hip-mounted harness.
And that sort of configuration involves same, mixed, and bicurious couplings. So, to cover everyone, we are going to look at all of the reasons, means, and recommended methods to uses a strap-on.
Getting it up the butt – here’s why it feels good for people
As the old Chinese saying goes, we live in interesting times. You can turn on the news and read about The Naked Blogger, a woman from Egypt who’s totally sex-positive despite living in an Islamic hellhole. Then there is all of the prudish nonsense which comes out of supposedly enlightened countries, especially when it comes to butt play.
Using another viable hole is still considered problematic by some folk, and I guess I can understand why a little. I mean, shit comes from there – yech, gross (!) – and I get that. But with the right prep work, any messy situations can be overcome. Still, some people don’t understand the reasons why someone would want wood up there, so I’ll explain thoroughly…
Why men are into it
Yeah, I know that most guys tighten their assholes and recoil at the thought of anything going anywhere neat their asshole. To be honest, I still have that clinching feeling when I imagine a rod – fleshy, latex, or made of glass – entering my unpenetrated, pink button. But I’m an open-minded dude and can imagine why guys, including straight ones, get into being anally tickled.
(Remember, fellas, I have reviewed horror erotica and scat porn before, so there isn’t much that can scare me.)
To focus on the physiological angle, for now, there are several little points that dudes finding fun to have a lady (or guy) poke at with a foreign object. For one, the anal ring is packed with a series of fine nerve receptors, which – if you do it right – can feel really nice when stimulated.
Beyond that, if you keep to a’pushing, there are even more pleasure sensors which the Goddess decided to stick well up the butt. Of course, the biggest factor which turns guys on to a butt pounding is the almighty P-spot.
Being the male version of the G-spot, the prostate gland is something which most guys don’t know the joys of using unless they figure out that aggressively-grab-taint technique before cumming, which can only really be done by wanking or with a helping, informed hand.
But by plugging a dildo straight up there – especially when a responsive woman is doing so with a strap-on – can yield some satisfying results. Believe it or not, if you check out certain sexual health articles, there are reports of guys who have had body shuddering orgasms while being anal sticked.
If you don’t think this is true, as I have pointed out before, there are toys specifically for guys to pleasure their prostate. And in many cases, the manufacturers and marketers don’t give a damn about those dude’s orientations.
Why women are into it
I don’t think I’ll have to explain too much why women who tend to wear denim and cut their nails short would enjoy buying strap-on gear. However, there are those women – both straight, gay, and everything in between – who like taking it up the ass, even with an artificial implement.
To focus on its physicality, women derive the same pleasure from getting poop hole penetrated as do men. More or less, the same nerves ring the anus and further up in there, though there are some differences as well.
The biggest one is women don’t have a prostate, but they have some other joy buttons that can be accessed through the backend.
Besides all of the same group of nerves located in the backend, women have a particular little pleasure spot that is unique to them. Called the Skeen gland, this pair of ducts are located deep inside the v-hole.
(Fans of squirt and internal porn probably know what I’m talking about.)
While it’s in the pussy it’s possible to stimulate this little spot while doing it in the butt. In short, whether it’s done with a dick or a dildo, ladies can get a ton of pleasure by taking it in the poop place. Like some of the guys reading this, I’m sure there are some women who are skeptical about this claim as well – but trust me, I’ve done the research.
I haven’t focused too much on her work (come to think of it, I probably should, do you?) but check out Tristan Taormino’s book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. That book brings up in incredible detail how much fun butt stuffing can be for women and from a lady who knows how enjoyable it can be from a personal and professional standpoint.
And this is why people think receiving anal is awesome
As we all know, sex isn’t just a physical thing – a lot of the fun of fornicating is psychological. This is especially true when it comes to fetish and taboo forms of intimacy. For those of you who wonder why pegging (and anal in general) is fun for certain kinksters, here’s a breakdown of the primary reasons:
The sensuality of surrender
When it comes to some girls, and definitely guys who like having a lady plug up their butt, a significant reason is being submissive to their partner. Sure there are more, well, vanilla forms of BDSM. However, it’s hard to imagine a way of a guy giving up control to their female partner by being bent over and fucked with a dildo.
It’s a way to spice things up
This is pretty obvious to me but still worth bringing up that people like switching things up at least a little from time to time. While I don’t have that much experience with this myself, I’ve heard that people who do the long-term thing or have tied the note need to do something radically different after a while. For some, this can take the form of going to swingers’ club; others try pegging or maybe do a bit of both.
The Kink Factor – No matter what it is, there is an additional thrill for me, and I think most people when you have fun doing something “wrong.” For many people in most cultures, there still is a taboo around enjoying sex, especially if it’s outside the whole man-on-top-of-his-wife paradigm. While I can think of some other kinky shit, getting pegged is one of those things which is at the height of violating this “ideal.”
The parts and how they work
Okay, now that we’ve gone through the reasons why people are into pegging, let’s do a quick overview of the pieces involved. For best results, you’re going to want to incorporate all of these when getting into this fetish.
Harness
This piece holds the whole apparatus together. As a rule, these all have someplace to insert a dildo or similar ass penetrator. However, the styles vary quite a lot. Some harnesses are a series of straps, while others look like underwear with a hole in it. Both have their advantages, but if you’re going to get into pegging, get some kind of strap-on. Using a dildo alone ain’t going to cut it when the action gets heated up.
Dildo
From the reading I’ve done, beginners should start with a modest dildo and graduate to larger and more textured varieties. After you get used to them, I’d recommend experimenting with shapes, too. For instance, downward-pointing fake penises are ideal for giving extra tickle to the p-spot.
Vibrator insert
Sure, you don’t have to peg with one of these, but most harnesses and pegging sets have an insert for vibrators. So why not add to the fun with an electronic wriggling little gadget?
Lube up
I’ll get into this in detail later, but this little appreciated product is practically mandatory for any kind of anal action. And if you’re doing it with an unsheathed dildo, you cannot skip using plenty of lube.
And now for the all-important safety schpeel
Anal sex of any sort can be fun no matter which end of the erotic equation you are on. If you do it right, you can have a lot of fun without worrying about pregnancy. However, butt fucking can be extra risky if you are not careful.
Besides potentially being painful, you should protect yourself from sex bugs, and then there’s the shit factor. That last – and often most common issue – is fairly easy to overcome in a couple of ways. To avoid any messy accidents, diet well, eat and shit on a schedule, and be sure to thoroughly douche your derriere before doing it.
While you don’t have to worry about STDs with unused or properly cleaned dildos, that can still be a problem if you play around with multiple people. Besides using toy compatible cleaning products and warm water, it might be good to use a condom for added safety and fun.
For my down and dirty guide to the best condoms you should be trying, click the blue here! [link]
As long as you take your time to get comfortable, pain shouldn’t be an issue, either. But I cannot stress this enough either: Lube, It. Up. As I always say, if you think you’ve used enough lube, double it up – then add some more.
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Finally, since this is a particularly delicate kind of sex – and newbies might feel a little uncomfortable at first – setup boundaries and pacing. Just like getting into BDSM, I think you should set up a safety word and have a chat about how the whole thing is going to go and in which positions.
Of course, things can change in the heat of the moment, so if you’re a beginner at this, communicate by doing more than grunting and moaning.
How to pick a strap-on for a woman
Out any further ado, let’s look at my top four picks for a gal (or trans guy) who’s giving the “dick” up the butt.
Lovehoney beginner’s unisex strap-on harness kit
Price: Modest compared to advance sets
Length: 5 inches; 12 ¾ centimeters
Special features: the dildo can be changed out; multiple o-rings
This barebones bonerizer doesn’t have too many extra thrills but is a great buy for new peggers. The package comes with a medium-sized dildo but can be changed out for beefier models. Another nice option is that you get three o-rings that can be swapped out to make using different dildo sizes simple.
Best of all, this is probably the cheapest set you can find in stores or online. Further, if you look around on the interweb reviews, you’ll find that this is has been a well-received product. XD
Tantus intermediate unisex vibrating strap-on harness
Price: More than twice as much as a beginner set
Length: 5 ½ inches; 14 centimeters
Special features: The package comes with two dildos; built-in vibrator
This set isn’t for the faint of heart, but it isn’t a scary looking or feeling contraption either. The models I’ve seen a neat purple color and fit a gal who has up to 60” (152 cm) hips! Perfect for chubby chasers, right?
There are two dildos that come with this harness, which are both the same size but have differently sized “heads.” The best part about this device is that the o-ring is interchangeable and has a one-touch vibrate feature. So you get to double your pleasure for the same decent.
Sportsheets active fit strap-on harness boxer briefs
Price: Cost varies, so shop around for great deals
Length: Doesn’t come with a dildo
Special features: Not one but two vibrator loops
Instead of being adjustable for any body type, this underwear-style harness can be ordered in dress sizes. So, if you are a lady who appreciates an extra snug fit, this is an awesome strap-on. No retailers offer this item with a dildo, from what I’ve seen, so you’ll have to buy that separately.
But you can get this product for cheap and won’t have to spend too much more on a decent butt plugging toy. Plus, this harness has two vibrators making it a rare find, indeed.
Price: A bit on the pricey side
Length: 6 inches; 15 ¼ centimeters
Special features: Pleasure for both parties is guaranteed
Okay, technically, this is a bit of a cheat given the title of the blog, but I had to include a model like this one.
A common misconception is that pegging is only pleasurable for the person taking it. Not only does the pitcher get a nice psychological high from being the dom, but most models provide plenty of external genital stimulation.
However, if you’re a gal who craves being penetrated at the same time, get a dildo like this. The “main” shaft is long enough to really get up in the sub partner, but there’s a second bit designed to fit up in the dom’s front hole. If you do it right, you might be able to fit the smaller head up the backend instead.
As a nice bonus, it’s advertised as a great tool for kegel exercises.
Pegasus curved ripple harness set
Price: One of the more expensive models
Length: 6 inches; 15 ¼ centimeters
Special features: Ribbed and adjustable dildo; multiple vibrating patterns
The fabric harness is adjustable for wearers of any body size. The silicone dildo is textured and curved, providing even more delight. Moreover, it can be positioned for maximum G-spot or P-spot pleasuring. Not only that, but this butt banger has a wireless vibrator function with fifteen patterns each, which can be set at six levels of intensity!
This is one of the most expensive items on this blog, but I think the cost is worth it with all of the incredible features it has. I’m sure all of you hardcore pegging kinksters will be screaming yippee ki-yay when using this strap-on set.
There are strap-ons for men
Almost as little well-known as why people are into woman-on-man pegging, another set of toys enhance anal or vagina sex for a woman by enhancing the length and girth of the male member. For the poor bastards who have erectile issues, using a fake phallus is a simple solution to sticking it without medication.
Some guys use these because they aren’t as gifted down below, while others are average or endowed but want to increase the pleasure. Then there are the freaks who like to double penetrate both holes or just one using their man meat and an artificial pole.
The one big difference between these male models and the ones designed for women is that as follows:
The pole part is different – The dick is a closed sleeve, similar to a pocket pussy but phallically shaped. This bit is supposed to wrap over the dick, and the interior is often textured to stimulate the guy even more. Sometimes these are essentially hollow dildos with straps built-in. Others are intended to be swapped out with more traditional harnesses.
You might get two holes – Like I brought up, these are often used by some fuckers to allow for double penetration. To allow for this, some models have two holes or metal rings to fit a fake cock through one and a real one through the other.
Sometimes the harness is different – With these design differences, the shape of male strap-on harnesses might look a bit different, too. In fact, I’ve often found that cloth strap-ons for women tend to look like guy underwear, whereas the male versions resemble female lingerie. Not sure why, but I think that this might add to the whole gender reversal kink factor.
ThePornDude’s final words
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