Everyone has their own particular sex fetish as well as a list of hard nos when it comes to bedroom activities. However, I’ve noticed that just about every person – if not everyone on the planet – enjoys oral sex.
Too bad, it seems that not everyone is good at doing or could be better at going down on their significant other. Naturally, I feel called to help people out by giving a fair amount of sex tips – in this case, how best to give head.
Here are some of the health benefits of giving a blowjob
Before we get into technique, let’s look at the wellness aspects of giving head. Not only does blowing a loading help relax the guy, but the person with this penis in their mouth can enjoy plenty of perks as well.
According to a study done at the State University of New York, women who regularly suck and swallow are less likely to be depressed than those who don’t. The people who conducted the study suspect that this is because semen positively impacts a woman’s mood-altering hormones.
Depending on the guy’s diet, you can also get a full days supply of vitamins and minerals from a big enough load of Leche. To make things even better, you get a decent amount of protein and a minimal amount of sugar for free.
There’s even evidence out there that semen can improve the taste of food.
There are several intimacy perks, too
I know that some people think that going down is demeaning, but I think there are several things to consider.
For one, giving head can be a convenient way to sexually reward your guy without having to go through all of the prep work or worry about pregnancy if you PIV fuck. Another thing to think about is that doing oral can be viewed as a sign of trust.
And from what they tell me, a lot of women I have talked to say that sucking on a flesh stick is fucking fun. On a final note, if you give some bomb head, you have even more leverage to ask your guy to go down on you. 😉
Chat about what you both are into and want to do
This applies to whatever kind of sex you are into, but it’s always a good idea to talk about what you do and don’t like.
An excellent example of something you’re going to want to talk about is whether or not to use teeth. Believe me, ladies, there are some guys who like some teeth scrapping, and some fellas are wholly opposed to it.
To give you another example, I personally have (biblically) known some ladies who like to gag when going down. Then there are others who like getting their penis licked but only slowly and sensually.
So, before you get into it, a casual convo is in order, so no one is made uncomfortable or embarrassed.
Remember gals, every dick and dude is different
There are all different kinds of penises out there. Some guys are hung like horses; other dudes are a little bit little. You’ve got peens that are straight as an arrow when erect, or they can be curved up, down, or to either side.
For physiological and psychological reasons, certain guys can be extremely sensitive, while you can find men who need extra stimulation to see results. Similarly, there are fellas with a tight foreskin, and those who are snipped may not like rough head, while others who are exactly the opposite.
I say this because you should be prepared to adjust your sucking skills as needed for the best results. When you first start, I’d say you should ask for feedback regularly. Not only will you find out quickly what works well, but you’ll turn your man on even more.
However fast you eventually go, you should start slow
This is true, especially if you are doing a blowjob for the first time, but you should start by giving head at a slow pace, even if you’re experienced. Speaking from past experience and what other guys have told me, taking your time to build up rhythm feels fucking amazing.
Make sure you use your tongue as creatively as possible. I’m not going to throw out any specifics, but instead, say you should go wild experimenting. Even if you don’t know what to do exactly, so long as you are relaxed, you’ll get a feel for what works when working on a penis.
You’re going to want to use your hands to make things hotter
Even if you can unhinge your jaw like a cobra, after a while, you might find that your mouth gets tired. This is especially true if it takes some time for your guy to blow or has a huge penis.
For this reason, a lot of porn stars take a break from giving oral by wanking their guy off. I’d say you should switch off from blowing then switch between hands every couple of minutes. If you time it right, you’ll have the guy you’re hooking up with blow in no time.
Sex things up with some kinky play
Besides the basics, you can use plenty of other techniques to enhance the deep throat experience. Some of them might be a bit too wild for some of you, but keep an open mind and consider what I have to say.
Tickle the testes – This is probably the most basic technique, but I can guarantee you every guy will appreciate you doing this. You don’t have to be too rough – and probably shouldn’t be – instead, should lightly scratch his sack with your fingernails.
Take your civvies off but keep your lingerie off – Clearly, I like seeing a lovely lady in the buff and generally prefer to fuck that way. But one thing that a lot of guys get off on having some parts left to the imagination. This is why a sexy set of designer underwear can drive your dude wild while you’re penis gobbling.
I’m no expert on female fashion. That said, if you’re looking for suggestions, I’ve found that I like seeing my girls decked out in Victoria’s Secrets, Agent Provocateur, Lunya underwear, and if you want to be really fancy, anything from Versace.
Let me tell you, titjobs are terribly tantalizing – Besides switching things up with your hands, another asset to spice things up is with a fantastic way to add in some variation to your mouth play. I might do a guide on how to do this specifically, but to sum up the basics, all you gotta do is squeeze your fun bags once you’ve got a penis sopping wet in saliva.
After that, bounce all around and get ready to make your guy writhe around and moan. And even though women who are well endowed might find doing this easier with enough effort, a woman of any cup size can give a boob job like a porn star.
Perineum play is always great – More popularly known as the taint, this seemingly banal section of flesh can be surprisingly sensitive to stimulus. The reason for this is because the prostate isn’t buried too far away.
By massaging this part of the body when sucking, you’ll build up one helluva cum shot and an even more intense orgasm. This is another technique that requires a little bit of experimentation to get right. However, you’ll soon get the hang of it even if you try to incorporate this into your oral sex repertoire.
Along with this, playing gently with your boy’s balls will add to the sensation even more.
Anal action might be something to consider – Okay, a lot of men don’t want to even consider this, but these days a lot of them also are a bit more adventurous. It might freak you out, but some digital stimulation of the back end can lead to some explosive orgasms.
The reason being that there are a ton of hypersensitive nerves all over that region, plus it’s another way to stimulate the prostate.
When it comes to penetration, especially the asshole, it’s best to take things slow. Another thing to remember is to use plenty of lubricants. The rule I go by is no matter how much lube you think is enough, double it and add a little more.
Lastly, if you are feeling really wild, use your tongue to give a rim job, too.
Switch things up by 69ing – Don’t feel like you can’t get stimulated while going down on a dick. Speaking for myself, I love swapping oral pleasure with the ladies I have fun with-the easiest way to do this by assuming the 69 position while lying on your sides.
However, I like to be a bit more exotic and get some exercise. I like to challenge myself by doing double oral while standing. A word of caution, though, I say you should do this on a bed for safety reasons and only if you’ve got good endurance and upper body strength.
Don’t forget to use your peepers, too
They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, and for a good reason. Psychologists have found that when it comes to sex, a considerable amount of eye contact can go a long way to enhance the experience.
It may sound like a small thing, but it does a lot when a fella’s penis is getting licked. Honestly, it’s hard to explain, but there’s just something about seeing a pretty pair of eyes locking with yours while being orally pleasured. Further, this can create a subtle bonding effect as well.
And a few simple psychological techniques will make him blow hard
Sex isn’t just about the physical but also the cerebral. If you can get into a man’s head while giving him head, you can drive him wild in a way that isn’t possible any other way. Don’t worry; you don’t have to be a psychologist or a sex therapist to master the basics.
Using “dirty” talk, you can not just heighten the feeling but also increase the intimacy. And you don’t have to be too creative if you’re caught in the heat of the moment. Simple stuff like “do you like that” or “I love your cock” can be enough to make a guy bust hard enough to keel over.
It’s both of your jobs to clean up before hand
No matter how sweaty you all become, just about no one likes smelly sex. Whenever you want to get down with whoever you’re doing it with, it’s always smart to prep at least an hour or two ahead of time.
Remember, I’d suggest being careful about vigorously brushing your teeth before going down. According to a lot of sex experts and medical professionals doing that or using mouthwash immediately before oral can potentially open you up to diseases.
However, taking a light shower can be a fine form of foreplay and a fun place to start your oral sex fun.
There are a few things you are (almost) always going to want to avoid
While there are a ton of different things to try when giving head, there are a few things which I can assure you that nearly all guys ain’t going to enjoy.
Not mixing things up is boring – Everyone enjoys variety, especially when it comes to sexual stuff, even if someone is super vanilla. So, when you are giving oral, you don’t want to use the same bobbing move over and over again.
That doesn’t mean you have to be super aggro if you don’t want to. If you’re a penis gargling newb, just tilt your head a little bit and change the shape of your mouth every once and a while.
Changing technique too much is rough – Don’t misunderstand me, I love a zealous lady who loves giving oral. However, being too aggressive might freak some guys out. Further, switching from one move to another every couple seconds may seem like a good idea, but moving that fast doesn’t really allow the guy to really enjoy all those little sensations.
Avoid biting way too hard – As I brought up earlier, some guys like using teeth, but I’m pretty sure that no one is into having their penis gnawed on. Of course, there may be exceptions but chopping down on a penis is not only uncomfortable but potentially dangerous.
You don’t have to power through the face pounding – When a guy gets excited, he can get a little overzealous with the humping. And even if you’re a blowjob expert, your throat can get a bit tired. But you don’t have to try to tough it out, and I say you should take a break with some of the other moves like a handjob. Otherwise, you might feel sore later or even might get injured.
Of course, if you’ve got a masochist streak to you, I’m told giving a rough throat fuck can be a fun time.
Whichever camp you are in, something to consider is using a product to relax your throat. The best item to use is a relaxant like a spray or numbing gel such as Goodhead Oral Spray or BJ Blast products. They come in a line of delicious flavors and make giving oral a helluva lot easier by dulling your gag reflex. If your money is a little hard up for cash, even a simple throat lozenge should do the trick.
You actually can suck too hard – Yes, believe it or not, sucking hard enough can be uncomfortable as all hell, especially on the old stones. This is why you should remember to look up at your guy to gauge his response and get verbal for clarity every once in a while.
Keep in mind a few safety factors to consider
As a rule, oral is one of the safest forms of sex you can have. Unless you get sprayed all over the place, it’s virtually guaranteed that you can’t get pregnant. There are also certain viruses you don’t have to worry much about – however, make sure you get tested regardless.
The biggest STD you should be considered with is gonorrhea and syphilis, which, while easy to treat, can be really nasty if you don’t catch it time. Another thing to be aware of is passing a cold sore onto your partner’s penis in the form of herpes. Sure it’s not going to kill him, but can be a pain in the ass to deal with when a flare-up occurs.
While it’s not as much fun if in doubt, put a condom on your guy. To compensate, there are some specialty condoms that are designed to provide unique stimulation. A few of the rubbers I recommend include Trustex and Fantasy flavored condoms. Also, I wouldn’t use them for other kinds of sex, but Lifestyles are another and cheap option.
On the note of flavored condoms, if you’re tested and like to add extra taste while sucking, there are plenty of extremely excellent flavored lubes out there. The better brands I’d suggest you use include Passion Lubes, Wet, Aloe Cadabra, Astroglide, and Jo H2O.
Most of these products will run you about nine to twelve dollars US (about eight to eleven Euro or seven to ten pounds), but there are plenty of reputable brands that will cost almost half of that. Furthermore, the best e-stores which provide these lubes include Adam&Eve, Amazon, and The Lions Den.
Here’s how you get your guy to taste better
A common problem I often hear that people have when it comes to giving head is that they can’t stand the taste when it comes to swallowing. As someone who has found that I’ve had the same problem when going down on some women, I do sympathize.
But fear not! This issue is something that is easy to fix.
The body’s pH and various organ systems are incredibly sensitive to changes in hydration levels. So, if your partner doesn’t drink enough water, he ain’t going to taste very good. Another thing to change to give cum a neutral or even syrupy taste is to eat healthier.
Too much salt and greasy food or smoking cigarettes are going to make the money shot something you’re not going want to be in your mouth. Getting your guy to consume plenty of fruits and vegetables – particularly berries, stone, and citrus fruit – should sweeten that semen up.
PornDude’s final words
I’ll end with a few final thoughts referring to related stuff I’ve already written on. There are others I didn’t mention here but have discussed in another post when it comes to erogenous zones. So, try them out and see how it works.
We all know that a lot of professional porn isn’t “real” in the sense that everyone is capable of fucking just as the pros do.
However, there is a good deal of porn that can give you some fantastic ideas. As far as free blowjob porn goes, one of the best places to go is my blog, “Feeling It in the Pharynx – The Top Deepthroating Videos of 2020.”
I’m curious to see how well this advice goes for all of your girls, so tell me about it. Better yet, take a video of your next oral sex encounter and send it to me or post it to your Twitter feed. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is wondering how well you do.
Until the next one, good luck and enjoy your next fuck. 🙂
