No matter how skilled or well-endowed you are or how attractive your bunk buddy is, vanilla sex can be a bit boring after enough time. It can be tempting to grab some chains, a whip, and a car battery and dive into super hard kink for some people.
But not everyone is that adventurous, and frankly, not everyone should for several reasons. For one, not everyone’s fuck partner may be into that sort of sex. Second, not every person has the right mindset to get into kink even if they think that they do at the start. And third, some forms of kink can be expensive and taxing on the body.
But fear not, switching things up in the bedroom doesn’t mean you need to take several BDSM safety courses, hire a sex coach, or spend a ton of money on equipment. There are all sorts of cheap resources to look up, not to mention easy to play sex games, which I’ll get into for this post.
Draw up a list for the sake of variety
It can be great to want to try some new stuff in the bedroom, but one problem I’ve heard that comes up is that people get stuck when it comes to ideas. Obviously, if you are experimenting, it’s best to get an idea of what you are and, more importantly, are not willing to get into.
To tackle these problems, talk about your fantasies, and maybe get your motor running; it helps to write things out rather than simply talk about them.
Play some yes/no/maybe – I’m surprised that more people haven’t done this or even heard of it, especially people in relationships. After all, this is an efficient way to figure out what you are both interested in doing, don’t want to even consider, and sexual situations you might consider.
The rules are simple: write out all of the sexual stuff and fetishes you can think of and check off yes, no, or maybe next to all of them. For the stuff that you both say yes to, put that on your sexual bucket list. When it comes to yes-maybe and maybe-maybe responses, that’s stuff worth talking about and coming to an appropriate compromise.
Not only is this a good way to figure out stuff you might want to try on any given weekend, but it’s highly recommended for other activities we’re going to look at later.
Use an online compatibility tool – I’m not sure why but not everyone can be so straightforward when talking sex, even if the person they are talking to is their spouse. Then there is the issue that it can be hard to think about everything you might want to do in the moment.
Fortunately, there are several cheap and free sexual compatibility quizzes that you can find all over the net. So no one is embarrassed, these quizzes are designed so that you only see responses to questions where you both are interested in.
Experiment with some light kink
Again, getting into simple kink doesn’t mean that you have to invest a whole bunch of money or push your psychological or physical limits. Instead, with a little bit of effort and inspiration, you can place yourself in a whole new sexual headspace.
Try some toys – This blog isn’t about the top end sex toys you can only find on your local adult bookstore’s top shelves. Even simple sex toys can get you and your fuck buddy in a sweaty, writhing heap after a prolonged hump session.
For instance, a pair of sex dice is an easy way to get you to expand your horizons and can be found just about anywhere online and even in some ‘respectable’ brick-and-mortar establishments. Even if you can’t afford the reasonably low expense, by assigning sexy stuff to numbers, a regular six-sided die can work just fine.
On that note, if you want to make things even crazier, visit a comic book store and get one of the multi-sided die used in Dungeons and Dragons. If you’re not familiar, there are 12-, 20-, even 32-sided dice out there. With enough creativity, you can come up with a ton of fun things to try and positions to do them with tools like these.
Another simple sex toy to spice your sex life up with a cock ring. There are some super expensive ones, but it shouldn’t be too hard to find a rubber model which have two vibrators and is textured. This means that both the person doing the pumping and the one getting fucked are going to experience a whole new world of sensations.
Besides all sorts of stores online, you might even be able to get a vibrating cock ring in some bars or festivals like Pride.
Basic dom/sub play – I have found that most people, no matter their orientation or what they’re into, tend to either be dominants, submissives, or switches. If you don’t know which you are, there are tons of places where you can go to remain anonymous and figure out which one you are.
While I’m not a fan of the SJW crap they are known to post, Buzzfeed has a pretty decent 14-question quiz, which should give you an idea of what your temperament is.
Once you figure out how much of a dom or sub you are, check with the person you’re sleeping with, and structure some sexy time around those roles. As with more hardcore BDSM, I still think it’d be a good idea to come up with a safety word. Definitely, you should do a yes, no, maybe list, which I described already.
Take on a role – Sure, you can go out and buy some costumes to make role-playing feel even more ‘real,’ they’re not really necessary. Between the clothes in your wardrobe or simply by coming up with the right character, you won’t need much to make your future foreplay fantastic.
While cliché, some basic scenarios include the horny plumber coming over to ‘clean the pipes’ of a slutty housewife or the classic single parent seducing a sexy babysitter.
Even if you’re not a great actor, so long as you commit to whatever character you’re playing, you should be able to heighten the experience. Worst-case scenario, even if you don’t, you’ll undoubtedly elicit a few giggles out of your partner.
Edify yourself with an erotic book
Available for cheap through a bookstore, or maybe even for free at a local library, there are tons of books to help out your sex life. I decided to focus just on the most famous carnal codexes with thousands to choose from, which you need to start reading and applying to your love life.
69 sex positions – The author, Sam Jones, made the right choice when she picked the subtitle Essential Moves to Spice Up Your Sex Life as this book is packed with 92 pages of all sorts of positions to try. The text is detailed yet easy to read and comes complete with illustrations.
You can get this for a few dollars through mainstream retailers like Barnes and Noble. Plus, this ebook is now free as an audiobook with an Audible trial or if you have a Kindle Unlimited account via Amazon.
The complete Kama Sutra – This ancient Indian text dates back to the 4th century in the Common Era. Being so old, the details in the book have been modified over time.
Part of this is because different cultures and religious sects have contributed to it. The other reason, I think, is because over the centuries, who knows how many people have tried out what’s suggested in the text and figured out what works.
The Sutra was first translated into English in the 19th century, and there have been several books that are spinoffs on the original with tons of illustrations and commentary. They are all good from what I can tell, but I recommend sticking with the 1993 Alain Daniélou translation.
It’s much closer to the Hindi text’s original message while written in a style of English, which will read as intelligible to modern people.
Just be sure to stretch really good before trying anything in this cum conjuring compilation. Some of the positions can be a bit hairy unless you’ve got a background in advanced gymnastics or yoga.
The heart of tantric sex – Besides the Kama Sutra, another of the great gifts from Hindustan is maithuna – the spiritual grandfather of what would become tantric sex. Combining ancient Indian mystic sex practices with Western takes on yoga, this form of intimacy is slow and meditative.
The idea isn’t to bang your way to an epic orgasm but to enjoy every sensation during intercourse and bring you and your partner closer together. Supposedly, if you do it right, you’ll be able to move the sexual energy through your body and bring about healing and enlightenment.
The basics are supposed to be easy to employ, but beyond that, I’ve heard that the more advanced stuff requires some intense study. Since the ’60s, an impressive number of explanatory books have come out, but according to the reviews I’ve read, The Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson is the best book to use to start.
Still bored? Buy some board games
There are several novelty games of this sort that are specific for adults. If you look around on sites, even those who are more mainstream like Amazon, you’ll find several. But for the sake of brevity, I’ll just discuss just a few of some of the best.
3DP Fusion’s XXXopoly – Who doesn’t like a good novelty version of Monopoly? This edition is intended just for two players and has a neat set of cards to pick from to inspire couples to try new things.
As you roll the die and draw cards, the idea is to purchase as many Sexual Spaces as possible. If you land on someone else’s space, you have to do whatever sex act described in the space. Some of these activities can be as innocent as a peck on the lips all the way up to an erotic massage or full-on sex.
To make things even more intense, you can strategically buy blocks of time to increase the length of the sexy stuff described. I could go on, but I’ll leave it to you to discover the rest beyond the basics.
And rather than keep you locked into one way to play, even the game makers state on the box that some people make up their own rules.
Fifty Shades of Grey; Fifty Days of Play – I cannot believe that I’m recommending anything related to the Fifty Shades franchise, but when something deserves my endorsement, I’ll mention it.
Contrary to what you might think, they’re not all about locking your sub in an intricate rope tie in your sex dungeon. That’s not to suggest that this game is terribly tame either.
There are fifty invitation cards, which are divided up into five levels of gameplay, plus ten secret envelopes. The levels start with Virginal White up to Dark Grey and Seductive Black. Each draw will require you to be a bit romantic or put you into some sexy, stimulating situations.
And keeping with the theme of the novels, the secret envelopes are color-coded to determine who is going to be the dom and who will be the sub.
You don’t need one, and the game doesn’t come with these, but I have read that if you own some masks, love cuffs, and other basic bedroom toys, this game will be even better.
Kheper Games’ Who’s The Biggest Slut? – This game also makes for a good drinking game with close friends. There are more than 550 (!) questions, which will inevitably determine who the biggest whore in the group is.
Unlike some of the other stuff we’ve looked at, this game is one which can be a great way to get your chuckles on as well as get you and your partner warmed up before getting it on.
Furthermore, it’s ideal to be played with a group of people, not just a couple. In fact, I’ve continued to see online that this is great not just for any party but bachelor and bachelorette parties. Not only that, but Who’s The Biggest Slut? Consistently has excellent reviews no matter where you shop on the web.
Out of the others described, this is one of the cheaper games, too.
Truth or Dare for Couples – As much fun as the classic version of the Truth or Dare drinking game is, this one has the same concept with more structure and no risk of alcohol poisoning. There are only fifty prompts and dares, but the way they are written means that things are going to get hotted with each round.
Not only is this game a great way to engage in some incredible foreplay, but you’ll surely also learn new things about your partner too.
Moving on, there is the option to get creative with traditional mainstream party games. With just a little creativity, you can turn these innocent games into a means of spicing up your next sex session.
Naked Twister – Okay, let’s all admit that Twister has always been a little bit sexual no matter how you play. After all, you’re putting yourself in contorted positions with another or several people, which will have you all entangled in a ton of skin-to-skin contact.
So, why not take things further and play this game in undies or completely clothing free. This is yet another game that can be played with a partner and is just as or even more fun with several fuck buddy friends.
Break Out the Joysticks – This one is for all of you who are into video games, especially the classics. The rules are simple, flip a coin to see who goes down on whom first. Pop in your favorite game, then start playing and oral servicing.
Every time the partner being orally pleasured loses a life, they switch positions. So, let’s say you’re a guy playing Mario, and he dies at some point, your blowjob ends, and you hand off the controller to the person sucking you. Then the roles switch until the other person loses a Mario.
Of course, this formula can be applied to more modern games. If you are looking for an additional challenge, try playing this with a multiplayer game and carry on a conversation via headset with other people on your team.
A Pack of Cards – With a classy pack of forty-two cards and a little bit of imagination, there are all sorts of sensual play activities you can get into. The first one that comes to mind is strip poker, but other traditional games only require a little bit of tweaking to make them sexual.
For instance, by scoring twenty-one in blackjack, the dealer has to strip something off, but if the player loses, they’ve got to start losing articles of clothing.
Another option is to assign sex acts to a suit or numbers to certain sex acts. For instance, twos mean that the person drawing needs to remove an article of clothing, while three mean the other person has to. Fours mean that you have to makeout whereas fives mean you have to dry hump, and so on.
I usually don’t give anyone else shoutouts, but if you want a complete game with these sorts of rules, look up PeanutAlmighty’s post on the Sex sub-Reddit. When applied, I’m sure that his ideas will prove to be quite stimulating.
PornDude’s final words
Did I give you a decent number of ideas for fun things to try out on a rainy day, while in quarantine, or stuff to try after a vanilla date night? I certainly hope so, but I’ll wrap up with a few more.
Clearly, some of these activities will require you to invest a little bit of money, but you don’t need to raid your savings for some of them. In fact, if you are creative enough, you can make toys and other sexual enhancers with items and materials lying around the house.
In case you need some hints and prompts, I’ve written up a blog on how to make your own sex toys. There is a good spread of suggestions to improve your sex life no matter your gender or ‘intos.’
As a final recommendation, I’m sure all of you guys are voyeurs, but you might want to consider mixing things up by showing yourself (and perhaps your significant other) off on a webcam. Not only can you get your jollies from being watched, but you might also make a little bit or maybe even a lot of money while performing.
To get a guide on the best cam sites to consider broadcasting on look up my reviews on the top twenty cam sites. Of course, you should consider being a model on my official webcam page. We are always looking for new talent, and you could become a rising star/let through that platform.
Now that we’re at the end, you could do yourself and me a favor and send this to the person you’re fucking, courting, dating, or otherwise in some form of relationship with. I imagine they’ll be just as curious, if not excited, to try out some of the stuff I suggested.
If you do try one or several of these games, let me know how it goes. I genuinely would like to see what your experience was like.
