I remember once reading that porn is a medium that displays the versatility of the libido. At the risk of sounding too artsy, I have to say that I agree, but I don’t think that statement goes far enough. Seeing as porn doesn’t exist in a vacuum – and contrary to the crazy feminists’ stupidity – it is typically a reflection of the consumers’ desires.
If you are skeptical, think about this, how often are most successful products come from the top down or the bottom up?
Moving on, besides porn, another expression of sexuality which shows off its range is putting it into practice, and I’m not talking about vanilla intercourse. Instead, I mean sex at the extremes, which are neat and freaky are fetishes.
While I’m not into a lot of these, I do have an intellectual interest in just about all of them regardless. Based on your feedback on my stuff, it would seem like a lot of you are the same.
I’m used to talking about the more ‘mainstream’ kinks, but I like to mix things up, as you know. So, we will be diving into the world of money slave fetishism.
Before you get started, you might want to take time to ready yourself. This has got to be one of the weirdest blogs I’ve ever written, and you’ve ever read.
So, what exactly is money slavery?
Let’s start by explaining the dynamics between masters and money slaves, or to be more politically correct, dominants, and submissives. If you aren’t too familiar, these sorts of relationships, they all generally revolve around an intentional power dynamic – though not in a controlling way.
When it comes to being a money sub – also known as being into findom (financial domination) – the sub gives money to the dom. In return, the dom may reward them with a strip show, online dirty talk, or some other kind of sex tease or activity.
However, this doesn’t mean that the dom will do some or even any of these things. As many people have put, the slave’s dom gets money for, in a sense, nothing.
There are many things and terms you want to understand
With that definition set, let’s get into the details of financial domination and how it is practiced. To begin, the two participants in financial domination are referred to as…
Submissives are also called money slave, finsubs, pay pigs, cash piggy, or human ATM.
Dominants are also called money mistress/mister, findom, money dom, or cash master.
Unlike other forms of sexual relationships with a dom-sub mechanic, this one doesn’t really have any switches or versatile members who trade roles. It’s not true all the time, but I’m fairly certain that financial domination enthusiasts tend to be one-on-one and do not hook up with multiple partners.
Moving on, these people get into financial domination in a number of different ways. Amazingly, this doesn’t always mean that the submissives and dominant have sex or even meet up in person. There are a lot of nuances to money slavery, but I’ll breakdown three of the basics.
Tribute
This is the main way money slaves play, and as the term suggests, it means that the sub gives regular amounts of money to the financial dominatrix. After trust has been established with a ‘deposit,’ money is sent on a regular basis. In many cases, besides cash, the dom will also be rewarded with personal gifts as the relationship matures.
Blackmail
This form of money subbing is all about fantasy, a limited form of self-deception, and humiliation. The idea is that the woman in charge ‘threatens’ the slave with something which would rock there world.
Examples include sending an email to the money sender’s place of work, posting pictures of the submissive in an erotic situation, or phoning their family and spilling some tea. To prevent this from happening, the sub has to pay the blackmail.
Of course, none of this was really going to happen, but everyone’s headspace is grounded in the idea that it would.
Fining
This kind of play is common when a male submissive has a committed financial dominatrix. Compared to other expressions of findom, this is weirdly a more mainstream form of financial domination.
The interaction between the two parties takes a role similar to that of a BDSM dungeon relationship just with money payments involved.
I’ve heard it described a meetup as sort a sexy encounter with a swear jar. So, if the submissive squirms around too much while being flogged or suffered some other form of domination? They pay a fine. Has the sub not performed and documented something degraded? They pay a fine. Can you guess what happens when the sub doesn’t make a payment? That’s right, the pay a fine.
Findom vs. sugar babies – here are the differences
It’s easy to see how this seems like just another form of being in a sugar baby relationship – however, findom is quite different. When you’re a sugar mama/daddy, you spoil your baby with money, gifts, and even a place to stay in exchange for regular companionship and sex.
Findom, on the other hand, is far more one-side, and the sub may rarely if ever, see their dom in real life. In fact, from what I have heard, the money subs get off on the lack of constant reciprocation and only occasion rewards.
Why do people want to get into financial domination?
When I first started researching this kink, I first thought that it was probably the strangest thing I’ve ever read about. And if you’ve read any of the dozens of articles I do on extreme porn sites, I think that’s saying quite a lot.
I mean, I don’t know about you, but if I were a betting man, I’d wager most of you had never heard of anything like this. But after having looked into and thought about it, I really believe I’ve figured out why guys like giving money to a financial dominatrix.
The first thing is that the sub’s psychology is almost identical to the same sort of people who visit ‘normal’ dominatrixes or are into similar kinks. If you’ve never looked into that lifestyle, people get off on being dominated and releasing control over to someone else.
The same thing applies here, but the people who get into this do not even need any kind of sex or to see any nudity to get off. It’s almost as if these guys feel like they were made to worship these women. In fact, I’ve read a quote from a pay pig saying almost exactly that.
Further, from what I gather, the same is true for the doms. While the money is good, many financial dominatrix types also get aroused from being ‘worshipped’ in this manner.
Then there is the adrenaline junkie and total risk factor. While it’s not true of all of these people, some of them spend reckless amounts of money while pursuing this fetish. Sure, that part sounds a bit reckless, if not stupid, I know, but that’s part of the thriller for some of these people.
Where do you go if you want to find other findom enthusiasts?
Obviously, one of, if not, the best way to connect with people nowadays is through the magic of the internet. When it comes to fetishes – outside of maybe the leather and S&M scene – finding like-minded people online is practically mandatory.
Unfortunately for people who are in it, there are no specialty dating apps for folks who are into findom, as far as I know. However, there are some decent traditional dating – or maybe I should really say hookup (?) – platforms.
There are a few more I could have mentioned, but just to focus on the most notable ones, here are the best.
Findoms.com
If you ask me, some of the design work could be way better, but when it comes to the community and opportunities to connect, this is a nice website. I gather that the people who hang out here are a bit on the wild side – even by financial domination standards – though the mods are good to act when it comes to keeping people civil.
In addition to the standard networking and creating threads on the forum, there is also an entire section to the site dedicated to foot fetishism.
There is a bit of catch when it comes to joining up, though. Dominants are required to bring in at least two money slaves into the fold who have to pay a $30 entry fee each.
To me, that seems like a downer, but I also feel like some people would like that aspect. And if certain online reviewers are to be believed, this may be one of the best financial domination networking places online.
Femdommatch.com
This is another fine platform to get your start as a femdom mistress or a pay pig or even both! The website’s quality is excellent, and there is a good range of people to connect with.
Signup is a breeze and only requires you to plug in what you are looking for along with your zip code and verify your account with your email address. And as a nice perk, this website is free to join so you can save your money or look forward to making some.
Lastly, unlike most other kink sites, this one also welcomes and makes it possible for queer men and women to join the fun.
Findomme.org
This little network has a lot of nice features that really make it worth considering before choosing a pay pig home.
There is a community of enthusiasts who interact through the site forum and via private chat. They guarantee protection and a safe space for all participants. Want some advice on how to be a lot better when doing this kink? They’ve got several tools to coach you on stepping your game up.
There are mechanisms to make funding trips quick and convenient. And when you make a payment, it’s guaranteed to be secure, and they accept methods of all kinds. In case you doubt me, take some time to give their virtual tour a look.
Makemoneyadultcontent.com
Technically this is a general website that has articles on how to make money in the skin business via the web. However, I found that their guide on how to start getting into this lifestyle as a financial dominatrix. This blog post is not too detailed but still a useful guide if you’re a beginner.
There are other resources if you still aren’t sure about this kink
Besides using online dating platforms, there are a few other emerging resources for having fun and staying safe while being a money sub or master. For example, Cleo Tantra is a financial dominatrix with years of experience in the money fetish world and has a rising level of fame.
Her work is scattered all over the internet, but if you look around for a few minutes, you should be able to find her advocacy. To give you some places to go find, she’s been interviewed by Vice magazine, has a YouTube channel, and is a member of FinDoms.com.
Another resource from the sub perspective would be to look up the Your Money Slave website. I usually wouldn’t recommend anyone’s blog except mine, but since I’ve never been – nor would I be – a pay pig. So, if you want to find out about the world of findom from that standpoint, look this guy’s workup and tell him who sent you.
How much cash can you make really?
Even though this is an incredible niche kink, there sure are many webpages that brag about how much a dom could make if they put in the time. Some sites even claim you could rake in ten thousand dollars a week!
Of course, that doesn’t mean that everyone is cut out for this or bring in that much revenue. Unless you have a small army of high-income subs, I wouldn’t expect to pull in that much, let alone quit your day job. It is possible to be dominant even if you are a guy, but the clientele options are a hella limited.
Still, there are some professionals in the business who make a comfortable living. However, it’s important to remember this is one of those things which will take time.
Have you become a fan? Be sure to be mindful of your own safety
To start, no matter how much you want to get into financial domination, the first thing you’re going to want is a steady, reliable source of income. If you don’t make much money, you’re probably not going to make for a very good human ATM.
Advice for submissives
Clearly, the most significant risk to a money sub is being taken advantage of by a financial dominatrix or just getting ripped off entirely. This is especially true for people who go so hardcore as to surrender all of their financial affairs to their dom.
It should be obvious, but no matter how much you want to worship your financial dominatrix, you should have a precise spending plan to indulge your fetish and cover your own expenses. I would go even further to say that you should put in the time to create a contract to protect both of you. After all, not only are there the normal risks associated with getting into a fetish but seeing that money is involved, there are massive legal ones as well.
Signs to watch out for are doms who have posted the same advert all over the net. In fact, I would say that you should avoid random internet ads entirely. Instead, stick to one of the larger, trustworthy money slave sites I’ve talked about already.
Advice for dominants
Not only do money slaves have to be careful not to get caught in a bad situation, but doms do as well. Yes, I’m sure some of you are thinking about getting into this potentially lucrative form of kink. And to be honest, I can see why you’d be interested.
But just because you are, in a sense getting money, you might not make much, and you’re not getting it for doing literally nothing.
Any money slave worth their cash will likely be skeptical of your intentions if you’re going to bilk them for money and not reciprocate in a way they prefer. My advice, don’t be a jerk and be upfront about what you are interested in doing and how you want to play.
Another thing to watch out for are scammers. As a general rule, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. I’m not familiar with all of the bullshit out there, but I know that some clever huxters can pump out cash from wannabe money doms.
A few words for both parties
No matter how you are communicating with a potential partner, for both doms and subs, be wary of time wasters. The longer emails go on without any concrete content as to how you’re going to practice financial domination, they’re not worth it. Most likely, they are flakes, but it’s still not worth it to take the risk by continuing to communicate.
Since these relationships often involve some degree of traditional sadomasochism, it’s critical to set up another set of rules for what you will do together physically. Specifically, you should draw up a list of what you both are into, your personal list of soft nos (negotiable sex things), and hard nos (acts which are off the table).
Further, since money is a factor in this fetish, I’d take time to draw up a separate S&M contract to legal cover both of your asses.
And dammit, do not become an addict
Just like no one likes time wasters, no one also isn’t a fan of the pathetic losers who nearly or entirely destroy their lives just to feed their fetish. Despite financial domination still being a relatively rare thing, there are plenty of stories of people who have wrecked themselves while giving away their money.
For instance, one guy who went by Gordon got so deep into findom that he considered doing something sexual he would never consider if his financial dominatrix didn’t want him to. What she wanted him to do is let a guy suck him off.
While this totally disgusted Gordon, he almost did it to please his mistress and receive a little bit of money to provide a tribute to his doms. Worse, his relationship with his girlfriend and even his physical and mental health started to suffer. In fact, he even lied to his real girlfriend by explaining that his ill health was because he was trying to ween himself off of heroin!
After taking some time to recover, Gordon continued to practice the findom lifestyle, though, while only spending $100 a week. Other guys limit themselves to more modest levels of spending like $120 a month. Then there are the addicts who give away thousands of dollars on a regular basis to doms.
And like I brought up earlier, some of these idiots give away all of their financial control to their masters. It is true that this isn’t always the case, but there are examples of guys who lose almost everything for being out of control.
Once again, if you’re going to get into this fetish, do not be that person!
If you find yourself in a strange sexual-financial tailspin, there is a surprising (or maybe not so surprising) number of support groups out there for pay pig addicts. If you’ve got a problem, get help; if you aren’t sure if you do, ask a therapist.
What is my personal take on all of this?
As you all know, I tend to be pretty open-minded when it comes to most people’s preferences, even if I’m not into it. Of course, I disapprove of stuff that’s illegal or will otherwise scare the horses. Then there is the stuff that I think is questionable like pay pig play.
I’m sure you’ve picked up that I think it’s pathetic that some people who get into get off on giving out so much cash that they can barely pay their bills. Worse, some guys get into this sort of thing and like the idea of giving away so much money to a beautiful woman that they end up starving for days on end.
That’s something I’m not going to recommend and certainly could not get into. However, there is something to be said for responsible people who enjoy shelling out some shekels a few times a month to some nice-looking woman and get off on it. I don’t know, go for it, I guess.
ThePornDude’s final words
As I began with, I have some kind of interest in all types of crazy kinks, and I know some of you guys have a deeper fascination with them. If that’s you or you are looking for stuff to look into; you should look up my breakdown of fifteen other fetishes.
Trust me, no matter how experienced you are, you’ll see some stuff just as wild as findom.
Besides that, if you are looking for even more inspiration for your personal sex life or just want to watch some kinky shit, I’ve got that covered. You could look at my list of some of the best fetish porn sites from all over the web. They all have reviews, most of them quite positive, and are free to watch.
Since a lot of those platforms are tubes, there is a great level of quantity, though the quality is not always the best. If you want consistently well-made kink content, I’ve got another page listing a baker’s dozen premium fetish pornography.
As always, there are more blogs soon to come out, including some which cover even more kinky shit. I don’t want to give away too much, but I’m sure that you will be impressed by what I post. To keep up and so you don’t miss anything, save this blog to your favorites.
Happy trails!
