Like the number of people who masturbate, 98% of the population has a kink, and the other 2% are fucking liars. And guess what? There’s nothing wrong with having a fetish. Some people are into mild stuff; some others like the wild, but I think that everyone should at least consider getting into BDSM, even if they only want to try the light stuff. With enough trust and the right equipment, this form of fornication can be a phenomenal way to cut loose beyond ‘normal’ sex. Besides, where is it written that adults can play with toys of a specific type?
No matter how far you are into your dungeon sex expression, I’ve come up with a list of items that will help you make things even kinkier and more extreme in the best way imaginable.
Before you get into the list, keep this in mind
In case you haven’t started getting into kink or are working around to considering, keep this advice in mind: it’s fun, but please start slow. I’ll make this comparison; it’s kind of like doing anal; it can be a great ride. But if you’re not sure what you’re doing, messy, painful, and sticky in the WORST WAYS POSSIBLE.
In the interest of being socially responsible and stress this before we get into: get educated about this topic before you begin. Besides some of the stuff you can find elsewhere on my blog, there are plenty of resources online and bookstores, not to mention in-person workshops for a hands-on experience.
Not saying how I have dabbled into this sort of kink, but I’ve gotta say, learning about dungeon sex is a lot of fun. And once you’ve got an understanding of proper knot ties, safety words, discussing boundaries and the such like, things get way more exciting!
Let’s start with the basics
I get that some people who, no matter how horny, aren’t going to be able to get into what could be described as slightly hard sex. I do think that most people should consider, and almost all of you guys will like trying at least a few of them. Read on and, once you do, let me think how things went…
Love cuffs
Alright, these are probably the most basic, low-key kink toys you can imagine, but if you know what you are doing, they can be super fun to use. Why is that exactly? Well, there are two different reasons, and it depends on whether or not if you are a dominant person or submissive.
The fun for dominants is – so long as boundaries are respected – enjoying your bound partners however you want. Let’s say that I know because a “friend” told me, but it’s not so much a power dynamic – instead, it’s more about getting a high from being responsible for someone.
That and seeing them writhe around when your getting hot and heavy is better than watching VR porn.
If you’re a submissive, the feeling of being not just controlled but being restrained so can, weirdly, be rather freeing. Or at least that’s what my lady lovers in the past have told me. Based on how they responded to the heat of the moment, I know I can believe them.
I suppose there is a third type of person who would not only enjoy but could make good use of this item: switches. If you aren’t familiar with what that term means, it refers to someone who likes trading places between being a dom or sub.
Just be sure to get specialty love cuffs, not any old pair of novelty, decorative, or police pair. Rather than get hot from all of the fun – instead, you’ll be hot with anger from all of the pain you’ll endure even after just a few minutes.
Dildos
Obviously, these little (but usually big or huge) toys have been made for and typically used for solo sex purposes. However, with not too much imagination, I’m sure you can figure out how to work any of these into a proper Fifty Shades inspired sex session. And even if you can’t, I’ve got some hints on using them with a partner.
Most obviously, one of the ways to use a dildo during a dungeon session would be to penetrate your partner instead of doing the plugging yourself or vice versa.
Want to kick it up a notch? Use one of these (or maybe two) combined with your fingers and appendage while fucking. Interested in taking things even further? Try stuffing (or getting stuffed) with as many toys as possible.
If you’re a bit more vanilla, but you or your partner have an oral fixation, while getting whipped, sucked, or fucked, taking a dildo in the mouth can be fun to do or see. I know it may sound like a subtle thing, but it’s kinkier than you think.
In case you’re not familiar with using these sorts of items, are going to be doing an anal play, or using abnormally large ones, there’s a rule you need to follow. Use lube, and no matter how much you do use, double it and add a little bit more. You’re also going to want to get a lubricant that is compatible with the toys you are using.
Male trainers
Normally, these toys are used for one of two reasons: wanking off or helping guys last longer in bed, or when they’re wanking or both. However, as with dildos, these can be super fun to use, especially if you have a particular taste in fetish play.
Obviously, you could use them to stimulate yourself while going to work on your partner in other ways. While it’s not my thing, I’ve heard from some submissive guys really enjoy pairing these with some other toys on this list like love cuffs and blindfolds.
Nipple clamps
It’s a bit different for everyone, but most people have some degree of nipple sensitivity. For some, they get a bit of a nice buzz from having their nips rubbed. Some other folks can nearly nut or squirt from someone getting a grip on the ends of their chests.
No matter which you are, you might want to consider strapping on a pair of these puppies to heighten the sensation during a BDSM or even a vanilla romp.
Another reason to consider using these toys is by taking advantage of the pleasure-through-pain mechanism in the brain. Nip clamps, especially the ones which use suction to stay on there, are perfect for this.
Teledildonic toys
Okay, this isn’t strictly limited to the BDSM category, but long-distance remote controlled sex toys can add spice to your sex life in several different ways. Or maybe I should say that the reasons they can improve your amorous activities are varied.
First, modern teledildonics are incredibly specialized these days and can be programmed to provide all sorts of pleasure. Second, they are a convenient way to start some foreplay from a considerable distance. Third, part of the fun is the distance as you get a nice but benevolent power trip from being able to spontaneous rev your dungeon buddy up at your whim.
Blindfold
Mentioned these already, but they are worth going on about a little bit longer. If you’ve never tried them, blindfolds are a great way to get or be surprised by what’s happening next. This is incredibly fun if you’re got a fine collection of toys to play with.
But the other neat part with blindfold is the whole sensory deprivation thing. This can be great if you’re trying to set up a dom-sub dynamic, but getting a pair of blindfolds can be fun if you want to bump uglies while bumping around in complete darkness.
Seriously, try doing one of the two some time. I can guarantee you will be amazed by how enjoyable these things will be.
Now some stuff for intermediates
Ready to graduate to a new level? All of these sex play items are in many ways similar to the others mentioned but a lot bigger, intense, and have an added leave of danger and excitement. If you don’t have any experience with any of the stuff mentioned before, you might want to skip this section. Or better yet, read about these fun toys and work your way into graduating to these kinky items.
Bondage board
A lot of people aren’t familiar with these, so I knew that I had to bring it up. These seemingly simple items can be used in all sorts of ways to keep the sub constrained. No matter the brand, these are made to be compatible with other things like love cuffs.
Any good bondage board is covered in leather, real or fake, and so is easy to clean. Perfect if you get hot and sweaty or are playing with stuff like wax or lube.
Plus, some of the better models I have seen are collapsible and portable. So, you can tote around your this thing without anyone knowing you’re openly carrying your dungeon toys.
Restraint rope
I’m sure most of you know that BDSM, no matter the kink, typically involves some sort of constraint being used. Hell, the word bondage is at the start of the acronym. A cheap way to string someone up all kinds of ways is with a good set of rope.
However, DO NOT just use any old line of hemp which you pick up from a hardware store. These can not only be a little unpleasant to use but, depending on the material, can lead to some wicked rope burn or even permanent scarring.
On the other hand, specialty restraint ropes are designed to be as strong as hell but soft on the skin. Even if you are using some crazy complex and tight rope holds, the person being bound, after everything is done, might have some minor, temporary redding on the skin.
I might do a whole blog just on the basics of rope play, but for now, I’ll say that a simple search will get you some decent result for how to safely get into this fantastic activity.
Sounders
Okay, I know that this is going to sound a little weird to my bros reading, but these toys can be super-pleasurable, as others have told me. Never heard of it (yes, I’m very punny, I know XD). These are often glass or metal tubes which are inserted into the urethra.
Yes, again, I know that sounds super spooky or even painful, but apparently, it does some spectacular things to the pleasure points in your willy.
I wouldn’t recommend fucking with one of these things inside of you. And you should be very careful to take the proper precautions to make sure you don’t get a dick infection. Also, make sure that you buy a sounder sturdy enough so it doesn’t bend or break mid-use.
With all of that laid out, these long playthings can be a great way to enjoy being ‘tortured’ by your dom in an unusual way.
Pronged pinwheel
On the note of being ‘tormented’ by some metal kink bits, pinwheels are a phenomenal toy to throw into your next dungeon session. And no, I’m not talking about the pretty spiny things that kids play within a field. I’m referring to the spiked metal wheels attached to a bar.
Instead of being used like other BDSM items with some extreme pressure, the joy of using a pronged pinwheel comes from gently brushing it against the skin. It can be effective just about anywhere in the body, but I’d use this against erogenous zones for best results.
Ballgag
I’m sure if you sent this blog to a radical feminist – which you totally should, and should let me know about it 😉 – I’m sure they would be outraged that I included ball gags on this post. Hell, I’m sure they’d be pissed over this entire blog and my existence.
But whatever those uptight, anti-sex people think, I had to increase this awesome device on this post. It’s fun for everyone, whether we’re talking about the person wearing it or the person fucking with them.
Part of the attraction to people who like to wear them is that they allow them to breathe just find while inducing a potent gagging sensation and a feeling of being controlled. Another thing which makes using this tool a wonderful time is that it provides a way to get some natural lube, saliva, to start flowing. As another bonus, you’ve got yet another device to grab to get some purchase for whatever it is you are in the middle of doing.
Costumes
Who says that you’re only allowed to dress up during parties and holidays? Once you get into kink, you’ve got all sorts of options when it comes to getting decked out in some hot gear to spice things up in the bedroom…or whatever your room of sin is.
Besides what comes to first like a slutty schoolgirl, sexy fireman, or horny nun, there are a surprising number of other costumes to think about trying out. Some of the weirder stuff includes the furry costumes for those into yiffing. But there are plenty of ‘slutty’ versions of various famous characters from popular franchises.
Talk about a role play enhancer.
These should be tried by experts only
Here we come to the final little listicle. Truly these are for the best or most experienced BDSM enthusiasts, so don’t get into these fun bits without having experience with stuff like the other I’ve mentioned.
That or I recommend at least reading up on or taking some safety classes on how to properly enjoy these items. If you do, though, there is a lot of ways to use them to crank your kink factor up to an unbelievable level.
Latex masks
Ever since Pulp Fiction came out, haven’t we all wondered what it would be like to have fun with gimp or be one? Okay, I’m kidding a bit, but I do know that there are plenty of guys and gals who like putting one of these masks on.
Honestly, I’ve never really gotten the whole thing, but from what I gather, a big part of the ‘thing’ is that the mask, in a sense, dehumanizes the sub. A lot of them are also fitted with zippers, making it hard to speak and can effectively blindfold the wearer.
Ben wa beads
Alright, I’ve been told that these can be a lot of fun, but the larger ones are not for amateurs. If you haven’t seen one, do a google search for one of these beasts. They are some massive two-inch in diameter spheres attached to a string which can be about a foot long.
And yes, there are people out there who can take something that big. Here’s my advice to work up to this level: start with some far more modest-sized anal beads and work your way up from there.
Binding clothing
Not to be confused with the cloth used in sewing, there are all sorts of other kinds of sexy clothes that give you some extra grip when you’re pushing or providing even more options when you’re getting hot and heavy in a dungeon session. It can be harder to find loads of this sort of gear on a single site, unlike the rest of these, but the best place to go would be Etsy of all places.
Whips & riding crops
As we know from one of Rhianna’s hit singles, whips and chains excite some super kinky people. If you ask me, these toys are the height of BDSM play. After all, it combines everything abut the culture include stuff that’s sleek and black, can push a subs endurance and adds a sense of release for both partners.
Or at least that’s just me. What about the rest of you kinksters? What’s your experience with a good flogging?
Chastity gear
Are you the kind of person who gets sexual pleasure when you physically can’t get off, or like indulging someone into that? Then the best way to prolong the sensation with chastity gear.
Unlike cuffs or binding clothing, which limits sensory stimulation for, at most several hours, chastity belts and cock cages can be applied for weeks on end. And so long as you set it up correctly, you don’t have to worry about any health complications, though I’ve heard that taking a piss can be a tiny bit messy.
Fuck machine
These complex and kinky devices are going to be hella costly but could be considered the ultimate when it comes to remote and electronic stimulation of your partner or yourself. Of course, they can be used for regular fun, but perhaps the best way to enjoy these machines is for self-control and/or endurance games.
Most of the better ones are made for women, or rather those who like getting penetrated. However, there are still some decent advanced pocket pussy type toys so everyone can have fun no matter what’s between their legs.
PornDude’s final words
Are you on the lookout for inspiration that you can get for free from the comfort of your home? Then give a look at the twenty-one fetish websites which I have covered on the main site. With terabytes of kink porn to look at, I virtually guarantee that you will never run out of ideas for things to try during your next sex session.
Is that not enough for you, or you need a resource that is a bit more concise? I’ve written about several other fetishes which overlap with dungeon activities as listed on this blog here. There are plenty of other sexy things to consider to up the kink factor in your fuck life, and I even link to additional places to explore them.
If you end up experimenting and want to share your experience, let me know how it went. I love hearing from my fans and might do a write up on some of ya’ll’s experiences.
Whatever you end up doing, have fun fucking!
